Who is this “Heidi Kingman?” I think people have differing assumptions and expectations depending on how they are introduced to me. If they meet me as a lawyer, they expect the buttoned-up intellectual. If they meet me as the jewelry artist, they may expect the creative perfectionist. If they meet me through my kids or through activities like martial arts, they are often shocked to learn I’m a lawyer or a goldsmith. They are really shocked when they learn it’s both! Or that my undergrad degree is in Clinical Laboratory Science. Why?

Maybe because in addition to the above, I’m also goofy, I laugh at myself often, I’m addicted to challenging myself, I swear like a sailor, I’m an imperfect mom with a messy house, I set off the fire alarm when cooking more often that I should, I’m a sleep-deprived mess, I manage a gluten/dairy/soy-free lifestyle, I’m an introvert at the core, I hate conflict and confrontation, and I’m at least 50% lazy. My poor lazy side gets drug around like a rag doll by my over-achiever side. Basically, I’ve not often fit people’s expectations. If I’m honest, I know that has held me back in some arenas because I don’t fit the mold. I would have to cut off some other piece of my personality to fit into that round hole. I’m finally coming to terms with the idea that the world won’t always stretch to accommodate my idiosyncrasies. But I’m cool with that. As Popeye would say, “I yam what I yam and that’s all that I yam!”

Heidi Kingman